Too Young to See The Tarnish Behind the Glitter


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The other day I was watching a pageant and a little girl came on the stage. She introduced herself and engaged everybody with her smile and cuteness. As soon as she started singing, it was obvious that she was already in the throes of voice training and that a career in showbusiness was in the offing.
No problems there. What did bother me was the way she wiggled while she sang. As with her singing, it was clear that an adult had schooled her to do this, and that that person, alongside her parents, saw no problem with the behaviour. In fact, she could gyrate about, like a woman four times her age as much as she wanted, and it seemed fine by them. And, the audience couldn’t get enough of it either.
I am aware that some people might think I’m not generous of spirit enough to see how a sweet little girl wiggling cuts such an adorable image. You know, the innocence cancels out the alluring movements, so that makes everything all right, kind of thing. No it’s not all right and it never will be.
Two reasons. First, paedophiles watch the TV. They watch it a lot. They watch TV and other mediums because their whole being is condensed down to getting access to children’s images and achieving sexual gratification from them. (I’ll expand on the workings of their minds in another blog, maybe). When they see a child like this they will use their imaginations and…well let’s not go there.
Then, they will send the image on to their cronies, because these people belong to and use large, sophisticated networks.
Second, what does it do to a female child’s psyche? What does it do to learn from a tender age that, because she is female, she must look and act in a certain way in order to gain positive endorsement from people? Some might argue that it’s just the same for little boys who go on the stage. Well, maybe, but little boys aren’t plastered with make-up, dressed in frothy dresses and curled and primped, are they.
Young women are hard-wired to attract men. Fine. There is nothing wrong with that, as long as the woman approaches adulthood in a well-rounded way. That is, she needs to be confident with her sexuality, and not to view it as the main part of her. Developing her mind is much more important. Or put it this way, she needs to learn that it’s what’s inside her which ultimately fascinates a man – unless, of course, the man in question is an absolute moron.
I argue that pageants and showbusiness for tender-aged starlets needs to be approached with caution by the adults and parents involved in them. To keep their subjects’ little, tippy-toes firmly on the ground, they need to be surrounded with people who can see the pitfalls, fend them off, and set their offspring on the right road. If they don’t, these children could be in for a major shock, when they mature and get out into the adult world.


  1. MH Thaung · November 20

    I don’t watch TV, so no idea how popular pageants are as entertainment, generally speaking. But I can’t help feeling the bulk of the audience would be the children’s families, enjoying the reflected fame and bragging rights (though not disputing your concerns here).
    On a slightly unrelated thought – aren’t there laws in some countries that prevent you from eg taking photographs at school events because of privacy etc? No doubt the televised ones sign disclaimers etc, but feels a bit… off.

    • Sandy Hyatt-James · November 20

      Hi, I don’t think there are any laws as yet. I’ve read that some places in the UK are trying to stop photos at school events. This seems a bit harsh to me., though I understand the parents’ concerns. I guess it’s just a question of finding that happy medium, which isn’t easy, given the psyches of some of these predators. If I were a parent, I would keep my child appropriately clothed, ban sexualised dancing and above all, watch him/her like a hawk.
      Thanks for your comment.

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